But, it is one of the most important parts of your engagement and wedding. Many times, your friends and family spend a considerable amount of time, money and thought to give you and your new husband a gift, one that they feel will help you start your new life together. These are also people who may have played an important part in your life so far. And, may times they attend showers, parties and your wedding itself. They made an effort for you, so it is worth taking a few minutes and a little effort to write a thoughtful, personal note.
So, how do you do it, especially if this kind of thing doesn't come naturally, without feeling overwhelmed and repetitive?
- As you know, I love a monogram and stationery. So make this process fun by using beautiful, personalized paper. You can order stationery with your new married monogram (that you use after the wedding). Beforehand, use your own monogram!
|These elegant cards are from American Stationery. They come in a ton of colors and are very reasonably priced.|
- Buy an embosser or stickers with your name and address on them (that you can use for Christmas cards, etc.). Most stationery shops and websites offer them, and they come in cute designs.
|This embosser one is from Paper Source.|
- Write your notes as gifts arrive so it doesn't pile up on you.
- Keep a spreadsheet so you can remember who gave you what and when you wrote them a note.
- Don't just list the gift. Say something nice about it, use a descriptive word, and how you will use it.
- Make sure your actual "thank you" sounds genuine by writing a full sentence, instead of just "thank you."
- If you are close to the recipient, mention how special it was that they shared in your wedding, shower, etc. It doesn't all have to be about the gift!
The best letters are always the ones that come from the heart. There are books with sample letters and adjectives to use that can help you along. But, use form letters wisely and loosely--people can tell when you haven't taken time to think of something personal to say. With email and texts and Facebook, it's a lost art to put pen to paper, but it takes a small amount of time and effort for a big reward. Your friends and family will appreciate it!